I feel really, really STRESSED.

I need to get this off my chest.

Since the beginning of J2, I have never ever taken a day off without studying (maybe except during the CNY holidays). When I don't study, I feel frustrated because I feel as though I am missing out on something, thinking my classmates would seize the opportunity to pull ahead of me.

This 'drive' I have in me is sort of a double-edged sword, motivating and yet driving me nuts for feeling that I am never competent enough.

I never dreamt of being placed on the Principal's top 20 list but it happened. That sorta gave me a HUGE amount of pressure,as I kept reminding myself that I have to maintain this achievement regardless (might be due to some typical Singaporean spirit, I don't know).

I very much fear that having this strong drive to study everyday will soon cause me to burn out even before the actual A levels happen.

Student X

(The above message was received earlier in March 2011)

Right now its approaching March, which means you have another seven months before the As. That’s still some time away, and you really don't want to suffer a burnout. Too often I have seen high achieving students crack mentally because their mugging lifestyles have become too painful to endure, and I had to intervene before things spiral out of control.

In your case I would advise you to slow down and go easy on yourself; tear away from that not studying equals being lazy and lagging behind mindset. Strike a balance between studies and play-trust me its bloody important, especially when the stakes (as articulated in your case) are that high.You need an extremely healthy state of mind to survive this and come out a winner. Remember a properly adjusted emotional state goes hand in hand with your academic ability when it comes to doing well in major examinations.

Just know that you are not alone. If the situation comes to a point when it becomes too much to bear, do not be afraid to seek help. Talk it out, see a counsellor etc. Admittedly those two years in JC are tough, no matter what you don't deserve to be terrorized by your own expectations. Stay strong and happy. Good luck. Peace.

Best Regards,

Mr Koh